the marshmallow test

In the 1960s, psychologist Walter Mischel conducted one of the most famous experiments in self-control: the Marshmallow Test.

He placed some children in a room with a single marshmallow in front of them. They could eat it right away, or if they waited for 15 minutes, they’d get two marshmallows.

Years later, Mischel found that the kids who resisted the marshmallow tended to have better life outcomes—they were more successful, healthier, and even scored higher on their SATs.

Crazy, right?

This experiment revealed something we all deal with: the struggle between instant gratification and long-term rewards. We face this same test every day—checking your phone instead of being present, scrolling instead of sleeping, or making impulsive purchases for quick satisfaction.

The problem is, while instant gratification feels good in the moment, it often leads to regret and missed opportunities in the long term.

Eating that marshmallow may have seemed like a small decision to the children, but it reflected a mindset that carried into their lives. Those who resisted the marshmallow weren’t just delaying a treat; they were practicing the kind of self-control that shaped their future choices.

Friend, if you give in to the marshmallow today, tomorrow you might be skipping a workout or procrastinating on important tasks. A quick marshmallow today, could lead to a miserable day tomorrow.

This reminds me of a verse from the Quran.

In Surah Yusuf (12:18) is the story of Prophet Ya'qub, who was told the news of his son's supposed death. Instead of succumbing to despair, he chose to practice “a beautiful patience”, trusting in Allah’s plan even when the pain felt unbearable.

His pain was so great that he went blind from grief. And yet, he did not complain.

His patience wasn't just emotionlessness—it was a deep trust that the best outcome would unfold in its own time.

Friend, that level of patience doesn't come suddenly; it is the result of practicing smaller acts of patience throughout your life. Just like resisting a marshmallow today, Prophet Ya'qub’s patience came from years of choosing thoughtful action over immediate relief.

The next time you face the temptation of short-term fun, think about this: what kind of future am I creating with this decision?